Real Friends...How Many of Us Are Real Friends?

*sighs* Such a touchy subject. Here are some signs that your "real friends" may not be friends at all. This applies for both sexes.

1. They Bring You Down, Instead of Building You Up

If your friend doesn't motivate you to better yourself in all aspects, be careful. If they're still into petty drama, negativity, immaturity, fighting, being messy and can't seem to understand why you'd rather pass on all of that to build your brand, focus on your hustle, and grow to be a successful and happy individual, then you might want to drop them. Friends should inspire one another, not hype each other up to behave in a way that will jeopardize your future. It's a bad look for sure.

2. They Talk Badly About Their Other Friends To You

I can guarantee you, if they talk about their "friends" to you, then they're talking about you too! That's a sign of dishonesty, and un-authenticity. How can you know that they're really down for you when they're embarrassing the person that they claim to be their friend by dissing them behind their back? Red flag.

3. They're Never Happy To See You Doing Well

You ever had one of those "you can be good, but just not as good as me" friends? They support you until you start doing better than them? DROP them. There is nothing worse than a jealous friend. It's one thing to push each other to be the best you can be, but if your friend is a low key hater, they may even sabotage you just to see you fall.

4. They Don't Have Your Back

If your friend won't defend you or your name, or isn't ready to set it off when you get your heart broken, then.... you might want to reconsider. Any friend that will leave you hanging during your time of need, isn't a real friend. Whether you're sad and going through some things, or just need a friend to listen and lean on, a true companion will always be there in some form.

5. They Don't Make Any Effort/Wishy Washy

If every time you ask to hang out, or try to make some type of effort to bond with your friend and they decline, but you see them living it up with other people, take that into consideration. Maybe you and your friend are not as close as you thought. A real friend won't make you feel unwanted. Also, if they only come around when they need the test answers, money, or advice, then think twice about claiming them as your bestie. If this is your situation, see how often they come around when you have nothing to offer. Easiest way to decipher the real from the fake.

All in all, be cautious of who you call your "friends." It's perfectly okay to only have a few. I only have a few myself. And I know that those few will pray for me, encourage me, always be down for a good time, protect me, and more. And I always reciprocate that love. Remember these words, if you're giving your all and not receiving anything in return, you're in a toxic relationship. Cut it off.

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